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In a world of passive aggressive behavior, speaking directly is seen as rude and overtly antagonistic. To avoid the assumed ensuing conflict, people resort to passive aggressive or “indirect” language to placate and appease.

Now yes, there are some who mistake the fact that they speak “aggressively” for them being “direct.” Speaking ascerbicly is not speaking directly. It’s just saying something bluntly with a nasty tone. That’s not direct communication. That’s self-serving and rude.

However, direct speech is purposeful and specific. It addresses people in a way that is clear and brings awareness to the subject without being nasty. It fosters mutual discourse and seeks understanding. It’s not defensive. It’s not avoiding. It’s not self-serving. It’s speaking for the purpose of clarification, education or resolution.

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Depression is such a cruel punishment. There are no fevers, no rashes, no blood tests to send people scurrying in concern. Just the slow erosion of self, as insidious as any cancer. And like cancer, it is essentially a solitary experience. A room in hell with only your name on the door.

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